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Respect in the Workplace

I once knew a woman who was in a bad relationship. I never met her significant other, but she made random comments about how poorly he treated her. The interesting – and significant – thing was that she didn’t make these comments to complain about his behavior. They were stated in a matter-of-fact manner that […]
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How Not to Respond by Email

It happens on a frequent basis for some. Someone sends you a scolding email pointing out something that you did wrong. Or someone embarrasses you in front of a group of your peers. Whatever the situation, you get wronged by someone at work. It could be a peer, a supervisor or a customer. Maybe the […]
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Respect in the Workplace

I once knew a woman who was in a bad relationship. I never met her significant other, but she made random comments about how he treated her. The interesting – and significant – thing was that she didn’t make these comments to complain about his behavior. They were stated in a matter-of-fact manner that indicated […]
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10,000 Hours for Success

Malcom Gladwell made the concept of 10,000 hours famous in his book Outliers. In his best-selling book, he discusses how successful people such as The Beatles and Bill Gates became seemingly overnight sensations. But in reality, they became outliers through lots of practice – 10,000 hours of practice. Bill Gates had been writing code for […]
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5 Ways to Make Your Mentoring Memorable

We can teach, but we can’t always make people learn. Mentoring and coaching are a tricky business. We try our best to help others. But it doesn’t always stick. So here are five ways that you can mentor people and make the mentoring memorable. Let people fail Some folks advocate learning from the mistakes of […]
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How to let someone fail in order to succeed.

When our kids were younger, my wife and I would occasionally get together with couples that didn’t have children. If our kids got into an argument, I would often stay out of it, getting involved only if things escalated out of control. At times, the other couple would ask why we didn’t get involved to […]
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Mentor the Mentor: Even Mentors Need Direction

Case Study Imagine the situation where you have a young and inexperienced team that needs mentoring. You have assigned a manager to lead this team. Explaining that they lack a lot of needed experience, you give the manager instructions to mentor them. After a few weeks on the job, you see that he isn’t doing […]
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6 Things You Say That Could Cost You the Job

Sometimes it happens within five minutes of an interview. Someone says something that makes me immediately decide not to hire them. Then I have a problem. I have to pretend I’m still interested, still deciding whether to hire them. In fact, I know that I’m wasting both my time and the time of the candidate. […]
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The 2 Reasons to Argue

I was in a meeting with two other people the other day. They both seem to get along with each other, but the two of them couldn’t be more different from each other. For the sake of this blog I’ll call them Frank and Sam. Frank Frank is a very down to earth person. He […]
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How To Have a Career Instead of a Job

I mentor college students at my alma mater. When I attended school there as a computer science major, the primary language I learned was COBOL. COBOL was one of the most common computer programming languages for business applications in the 1970s and 80s. As web-based applications came into play in the 1990s, few new applications […]
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The Millennial Impact on Technology

The 1990s was a great decade. It brought us Seinfeld, The Macarena, Michael Jordan, and the impending doom of Y2K hanging over our heads. It also brought the internet and mobile phones (once called car phones) into common, everyday use. People born in and around that decade grew up not knowing what life was like […]
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Three Other Reasons to Mentor

My first mentors in my career were advisors. They were people I turned to with questions. We would meet on a frequent basis. In these meetings they would share ideas with me, tell me certain areas where I could improve, and generally provide guidance. I generally liked my mentors and enjoyed meeting with them. But […]
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Three Other Reasons to Mentor

My first mentors in my career were advisors. They were people I turned to with questions. We would meet on a frequent basis. In these meetings they would share ideas with me, tell me certain areas where I could improve, and generally provide guidance. I generally liked my mentors and enjoyed meeting with them. But […]
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The Forgotten Aspect of Effective Mentoring

I’ve mentored several people throughout my career. I’ve tried to see each person as the unique individual that they are. By trying to get to know them well, I tried to customize my advice to their wants and needs as an individual. Depending on their age and experience, they usually need different advice for different […]
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What My Wife Taught Me about Being a Good Student

My wife is a middle school teacher. Throughout the school year she is required to attend teachers’ institute sessions. As a kid, the term “teachers’ institute” simply meant a day off. But I have learned that teachers attend daylong sessions to learn new teaching techniques and advances in education. She has explained to me how […]
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Dealing with the Office Jerk

My wife and I have been friends with another couple for many years. Our children are of similar ages and the kids are friends with each other. She was a stay-at-home mom for years while her kids were growing up. She taught me that being a stay-at-home mom was a full-time job. In addition to […]
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